Its Time To Eliminate 'Gender'
Sex is real, gender isn't. Why do we insist on holding on to a nonsensical, redundant and highly politicized concept?
I once had a classmate in college, who frequently told me stories about his best friend, who was a Special Forces Officer. He told me how badass his friend was. How he done multiple duties in Afghanistan. How he spent time training Taliban soldiers to fight Al-Qaeda. Everything I understood about his best friend was that he was a red-blooded American soldier. One day I met him and he looked just as I expected. Maybe a little bit shorter, but he was very buff-not an ounce of fat on him. And when he opened his mouth one of the first things he said to me was “girl, you gotta paint your toenails”. He looked like the stereotypical all-American soldier, but his voice and mannerisms were that of a flamboyant gay man.
Now would we consider this man to be a masculine man or an effeminate man? Almost everything about this man was incredibly masculine. He was quite literally a GI Joe. The way he looked, the way he dressed, the “roles” he adhered to all reflected this, and yet his voice and mannerisms did not match. Because of the introduction of gender ideology into our broader culture, this ridiculous question is now apparently necessary. We are now being classified on a spectrum from Barbie to GI Joe. And yes, this sexist graphic is a real image frequently used by trans activists.
Gender as most of us know it, was always just a synonym for sex. Your gender meant you were born with a penis or a vagina. It was always very simple. The concept of gender now is one that comes from far left Marxist inspired ideology. The concept of gender being pushed on us now was devised in the 1960s by a New Zealander named John Money. He’s famous for forcibly transing a young boy into a girl who suffered a botched circumcision and later ended up killing himself. Money was considered to have pedophilic tendencies and was unsuccessful in his depraved experiments. Despite that, he is the father of an ideology that is being shoved down our throats throughout the US and across the Western world.
I often suggest that to alleviate this ridiculousness, we just remove the concept of gender. Many of those who fight against this gender ideology push the same notion. We are male or female from birth. This idea of some gendered soul is nothing more than personality, wrapped up in a progressive bow. Even when you review the progressive definitions of gender identity and gender expression, they often align almost exactly with personality. I write about it here.
Progressives have purposely taken the concept of personality and “problematized“ it by calling it gender. Separating gender from biological sex, and basically substituting this for personality is what progressives call disrupting heteronormative society. This is an intentional attempt to deconstruct society as we know it. Progressives openly state that norms are bad and for us to be “liberated” we must dismantle all norms which include recognizing gender as biological sex.
I’ve had many conversations online with people on the left and right about this. And many are absolutely stuck on the idea of gender as being some sort of separate component from biological sex. Even those who are adamantly against gender ideology, whether they’re classical liberals or even hard-core Trump supporters, want to hold onto this notion of femininity and masculinity as something that can be different from being a man or a woman. And certainly, we all have varying levels of masculinity and femininity that can change throughout the day. A man who cries, a woman who carries a gun, a man changing his child's diaper, or a woman driving off to work, are all seemingly insignificant ways in which we take on various different ‘gender roles’ throughout the day. But these roles are incredibly regressive and haven't been relevant to the wider Western society for decades.
Feminists for generations had been working towards men seeing women as equal. Obviously, biological differences between men and women will always exist and feminists historically had not denied this. They wanted the right to vote, they wanted the right to work. They wanted the right to be considered equal to a man-not the same but equal. When we hold on to outdated stereotypes and “roles“ we’re holding on to outdated notions of men and women. Most of you reading this will have grown up during a time when it didn’t matter if boys played with Barbies, or girls played with G.I. Joe’s.
If you were born in the 70s and beyond, we were already beginning to move away from rigid, gender stereotypes. Women have been in the workforce for many decades. During the 80s, it was very common to see men wearing makeup and having long hair. It was always clear that these were men no matter how feminine they looked-nobody ever called them women. I remember in the late 90s for a time everyone dressed in baggy pants and baggy shirts. I distinctly remember borrowing my father's dickies to wear to school. That was the fashion back then, men and women all dressed alike. And yet we still knew who the boys and girls were.
There have always been effeminate men and masculine women. This has been documented throughout history. But never has that been a reason to consider someone the opposite sex. Gay men are often known to be more feminine and gay women are often known to be more masculine. But we have never separated people by those who are masculine or those who are feminine. Men and women have always been classified and separated by their bodies, not looks, personalities, or mannerisms.
Gay people have spent a long time fighting for the right to be able to openly be themselves. They have always said that being gay was not a choice but something innate within them. Because of the concept of gender, sexuality being innate is now being called into question. In fact, all sexuality is now a choice. This completely unravels all the work that LGB people have only recently completed. When we view one’s personality, style, and interests as somehow tied to whether one is a man or woman we are not moving forward we are moving backward.
By rejecting the concept of gender we are preserving the concept of sex, science, and biology while eliminating outdated regressive stereotypes that haven't existed for decades. We lose nothing by dismissing gender but gain so much. Categorizing people by gender (or levels of masculinity or femininity) is the equivalent of categorizing people not just by skin color but by specific shades of skin color; very pale, light, medium, olive, dark, etc. This is unnecessary and probably racist. So why would we want to do this for gender?
It's time to let go of the past and move forward (and I’m a conservative saying this). Eliminating gender will allow us to end huge battles in the culture war and bring a sense of normalcy back. This will have little impact on transgender people. They continue living as they have for decades-as trans, not as the literal sex they think they are. It will likely also take away the incentive for people to pretend they're trans for social status. This will allow us to return to trans people being a tiny percentage of the population rather than the exponentially growing population they currently are. Bathrooms, locker rooms, prisons ect will continue to be separated by sex as they always have.
The ‘progressive’ experiment has failed. It's time for its activists to admit defeat and move on-let'help them do so.
Rebecca, it's definitely a confusing time for sure.
I've been doing a podcast for close to 5 years and part of my opening line is, "ladies and gentlemen AND whoever else is listening, welcome to the show..."
So far as I know, when I wrote the introduction to the show, I'd not heard of any gender debate. Nothing of the sort was even on my radar. I was saying this because I wanted my show to reach EVERYONE, no matter who they were.
I'm waiting to get called out by some activist for being a transphobe or at the very least mocking the trans community.
We shall see.
I enjoyed your attempt to clarify a confusing part of our world.